A key part of the weekly Family Looking Up podcast is the challenge issued at the end of each episode. We firmly believe that making these do-able is essential. Moms are overwhelmed to begin with and don’t need more pie-in-the-sky expectations that lead to “mom guilt”. What moms do need is a laugh, a dose of reality, some great education and a d0-able goal to take small steps along their path of purposeful motherhood. That is the goal of the Family Looking Up podcast. We have compiled a quick view list here, for your ease, of all of the Mom Squad Challenges that have been issued. Enjoy! And remember…you’re doing better than you think!
Challenge: Practice reflective listening with your kids. Instead of responding or reacting, just listen and repeat back to them what they are telling you. By doing this, Niki teaches that the child is more likely to talk to you and tell you more than if you react.
Challenge: Let your kids see you reading this week.
Episode 3: Food And Kids – Guest Cheyna Palmer
Challenge: REALLY think when you are about to eat something: if you are really hungry? If you are, think about what you really want to eat. Plan your meals. Sit with your family and plan together what you are eating.
Episode 4: Happiness in Motherhood – Guest Molly Claire
Challenge: Remember to recognize your choices. Think today about where you are succeeding. It is easy to recoznize our failures, but today ask yourself where am I succeeding and focus on that.
Episode 5: Family And Finance – Guest Gretchen Smoot
Challenge: Physically sit down and write down a goal for your financial life.
Challenge: Take some time off of social media to enjoy the holidays.
Challenge: Ask your kids where they see themselves in 5 years and whatever they say, completely support them in it until they change their mind.
Challenge: Look for every small thing and big thing your partner is doing right. Recognize it in your head and say it out loud to them.
Episode 9: Miracle Mornings – Guest Lindsay McCarthy
Challenge: Try to have a “Miracle Morning.” It counts even if we just start with just one of the S.A.V.E.R.S each day, or do each one for one minute.
Challenge: Prepare your athlete! Have your children properly fed, well rested and make sure their homework is done. Coaches want their athletes ready to go when they are in the gym. So many things affect the team when the kid is exhausted or hasn’t eaten properly.
Episode 11: Finding Fitness – Guest Megan Smith
Challenge: Cut back on sugar this week. That doesn’t mean to cut it out completely, but to be more aware of how much sugar we are eating and to reduce that amount.
Challenge: Cook dinner 5 nights a week. As you do this, you will find that it will give you the best quality of life that you’ve ever enjoyed within the wall of your own home.
Episode 13: Do Good. Be Kind. – Guest Chris Kurtz
Challenge: Dedicate 5 minutes of your day for positive affirmations. Give yourself credit for the things you do.
Episode 14: Teaching Your Teen: The Two Crucial Concepts of Esteem and Control – Guest Dr. Laura Padilla Walker
Challenge: Try to find something positive in each of your family members, including yourself, and express it.
Remember, you’re doing better than you think!
Challenge: Put three date nights on your calendar!
Episode 16: Living a Creative Life – Guest Angela Ferrari
Challenge: Carve out 40 minutes for yourself and give yourself permission to start something new.
Episode 17: # Social Media with Guest Collin Kartchner
Challenge: Take an honest look at how the things and people you are following are making you feel and have that same conversation with your children. If something does not uplift and bring you joy, delete it from your feed.
Episode 18: Getting Your Kids to Sleep – Guest Melisa Moore
Challenge: No electronics in the bedroom! If moms can’t do that, put your electronics on the other side of the room. For children: No electronics in the bedroom!
Episode 19: Porn Proofing Our Kids – Guest Kristen Jenson
Challenge: 1.Talk to your kids and name their private parts using the anatomical names. Teach them that those parts are good parts, not shameful. However, they are private and need to be kept private. 2. A. Give them a definition of what pornography is. B. Help them understand that it’s dangerous and why. and C. Give them a plan.
Episode 20: Championship Fathering – Guest Carey Casey
- Find a person who looks different than you and has a different background and culture from you and learn from them.
- Fathers: find an accountability partner in your quest for better fathering, someone you can check in with to accomplish your goals for better fathering. Two are better than one.
Episode 21: It’s Time for “The Talk” – Guest Brad Wilcox
Challenge: Stand in the shower and practice saying all of the anatomically correct terms. He feels that we should be able to say them without hesitation or embarrassment to our children. All by yourself in the shower is a perfect place to practice!
Challenge: This week take time to notice how you feel. Identify body tension.
Nikki asked, “How do we know if we need to do something if you aren’t aware if you are tense?”
Take time to notice!!!
- Listen More. Talk Less. When we listen more we are teaching them they matter and their opinions count.
- Avoid the impulse to tell your children how to solve their problems. Ask open-ended questions and let them come up with the solution.
Challenge: One of the best ways to help you feel more grateful is to serve others. This week Melanie challenges us all to be intentional, look around your community, and take your family out and serve.
Challenge: Seize a Highlight moment. Look for a time when you can jump in and make a memory with your kids.
Episode 26: Preventing Entitlement – Guest Saren Loosli
Challenge: Take 30 minutes this week to sit down with your kids and talk about the things they need to be responsible for in your home. Include in the discussion, what you do in the home so they can understand how much you help them. If you don’t already have a simple chore system in place, this would be an ideal time to start one.
Challenge: Call someone you haven’t talked to in a long time and invite them to lunch.
Challenge: Just listen to this episode and plan to laugh, cry, and feel better.
Challenge: In this episode Andrea, Beth, and Camille talk about some of our favorite “Mom squad Challenges” from past episodes and what we have done to apply them to our own lives. We share the challenges that have made positive impacts in our lives and the ones that we completely failed at. Listen to find new challenges!
Challenge: Take a few minutes and sit down in your home. Close your eyes and imagine what you want your home to look like, feel like, and even smell like. You can envision what your ideal is. Think about who lives in your home and why you want to make living an organized life something that benefits your entire family.
Challenge: 1. Plan a family activity, could be going on a picnic in the park, where everyone is involved in the planning process. 2. Start planning a trip you want to take in a year.
Challenge: Choose something from the areas we discussed and implement it in your life. Take some time to think about what we talked about. The thing that seems to be nagging at you..start there.
Episode 33: A Happier Life – Guest Hank Smith
Challenge: Laugh with your husband. Make him feel like he is the funniest man alive.
Episode 35: Finding Hope in the Journey – Guest Heidi Tucker
Challenge: Better your communication with God. Find a space that you can dedicate to opening yourself up to two-way communication with Him.
Challenge: Keep a running list of the freedoms you are grateful for. Put it somewhere that you and your kids
can see it and add to it daily.
Episode 37: From Messy to Manageable – Guest Samantha Passey
Challenge: Write down a cleaning schedule that you would like to achieve. Include what you want to clean and when you are going to clean it.
Challenge: Instead of arguing with your kids or trying to solve their problems when they come to you, just come up with a phrase you say that disengages you from the situation and lets them work on solving their own problems. For example, when they are upset about a situation at school, just listen and say, “That’s too bad.” You don’t need to say anything else.
Challenge: Write a list of 10 gifts that each of your children have.
Challenge: Become aware of these “depressor” “fixer” thoughts that you are having throughout the week. Become aware of that argument that you are having. Call them what they are…just thoughts. They do not define who we are. They are not our identity. Then interrupt them by using your senses. The more that you do that, the less powerful they will become.
Challenge: Come up with your top three goals for ALL your children. Write them down and post them somewhere. Figure out the first steps necessary to reach those goals.
Challenge: Chanelle is issuing a challenge to all of her podcast listeners and would like to include our listeners in it!
The Fill Your Own Cup Self Care Challenge! August 20-25. Spend 5 days focusing on a different aspect of self care for you!
To participate go to www.momswhoknowpodcast.com/selfcare
Challenge: Don’t kill the children!
- PRACTICE ASKING “HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT OF HURTING YOURSELF?”
- THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN CHILDREN AND FAMILY MEMBERS AND THINK ABOUT WHETHER THERE
Practice Self Compassion. If you’re suffering, treat yourself kindly instead of beating yourself up. We all have times where we’re feeling something we don’t want to feel. Give yourself a break and tell yourself it is ok.
Look for the good in your child. Change the ratio of positive to negative interactions with your child to an 8:1 ratio. (Eight positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction). The most effective way to get rid of the “junk” in your child’s behavior is to pay attention to the good. If you pay attention to the good, statistics say that 80% of the junk will go away.
Try to opt out of all your family activities for two weeks and see what really is adding value and enriching your life. Add those enriching things back in and hopefully have more confidence to cancel all the other stuff.
Schedule a time on the calendar when you can have your first Family Tech Think Tank.